Anupama Parameswaran compares ex to ‘Anniyan’, reveals alleged abuse.
Anupama withheld her ex’s identity, but her Anniyan comparison drew attention due to past links with Dhruv Vikram.
- Anupama Parameswaran revealed she endured two years of “narcissistic abuse” in a past relationship, describing cycles of affection, cruelty and apologies.
- She compared her ex-partner’s behaviour to the dual personalities in Vikram’s Anniyan, saying, “Some days he was Remo, the next day Anniyan.”
- Engagement talks began within three months, but Anupama refused to rush into marriage and later stepped back from the commitment.
- The relationship affected her career, with the actress claiming she rejected films and skipped promotions for Dragon due to her partner’s control.
- While speculation links her comments to Dhruv Vikram, neither Anupama nor Dhruv has confirmed or denied the relationship.
Behind those few lines, the actress says, were two years of emotional pain, control and a relationship that slowly made her lose herself. In a candid conversation with Dhanya Varma, Anupama revealed that she had endured what she described as “narcissistic abuse” for nearly two years.
‘Some days he was Remo, the next day Anniyan’
Explaining the unpredictable nature of the relationship, Anupama compared her former partner’s behaviour to the contrasting personalities in Vikram’s Anniyan. “Some days, he would be Remo. The next day, he would be Anniyan,” she said. Her partner would shower her with affection on one day, turn cruel the next and later return with tears, apologies and promises that it would never happen again. She added that the same person who caused her pain would also become the one offering comfort, leaving her emotionally dependent and constantly questioning herself.
Engagement talks began within three months
Anupama also revealed that the relationship moved at lightning speed. The relationship also began affecting her career. Anupama claimed she rejected several films and stayed away from the promotions of Dragon, one of the biggest successes of her career, because her partner had started controlling her professional decisions as well.
Anupama carefully avoided revealing the person’s identity. Her latest revelations, therefore, should not be treated as confirmation that she was speaking about him. After remaining silent for months, Anupama says she has finally chosen healing, freedom and her own voice. What looked like a peaceful Instagram post was, in reality, her way of closing one of the most painful chapters of her life.
Why this matters
Anupama’s decision to speak out shines a light on the often-invisible dynamics of narcissistic abuse, where love and control are intertwined, and the victim is made to feel responsible for the abuser’s behaviour. For many young women, especially in the public eye, such relationships can be isolating, with career and personal life both coming under scrutiny. By sharing her story, Anupama is not just reclaiming her narrative but also offering a language for others to recognise similar patterns in their own lives.